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We have been given the “OKAY” by one of our Wedding Expert Vendors (who asked to remain anonymous) to share their personal experience and thoughts with all of our Wed Ex fans and followers on the idea of a "marrying age." She is very interested in hearing what some of you have to say or contribute to the subject matter, as well as, your opinions on her particular situation. In this selection you will be given some interesting statistics as well as sensitive and personal information that should ignite some feelings or reactions: 

Anonymous writes:


"After my last relationship, I couldn't help but wonder a few things, and I think a lot of women are wondering the same as me.

How long is the average time before getting married?


Well if you type those exact words [the average time before getting married] into Google, their top result says this:


“Brides who were engaged at the age of 20 or younger are likely to date the shortest amount of time before getting engaged (29 months, or 2.42 years). On the other hand, brides who were engaged at the age of 35 or older dated an average of 40 months, or 3.33 years.”


Naturally, I’m sitting here like:


‘So, where does that leave people like me who are in their the late 20s and not getting any younger?' 


Thanks to this BrideBox article, I've learned a significant amount of information through a survey they held; that women engaged between the ages of 21 and 35 dated for approximately 3.83 years beforehand.



Reading that, I’m thinking to myself:


'Damn, I just got OUT of a 4 year relationship; so you’re telling me once I get into another relationship (and who the hell knows how long that will take) I have to wait ANOTHER 4 years till I might possibly get married?'


Ya, so I started feeling a little hopeless. BTW, I WAS ready - and everything about my ex's actions told me that he wasn’t, but because I "loved him" I stuck around thinking something would change. What a waste of time, right?



Which brings me to my next question:


At what age, on average, is a man READY to get married?


Of course there are many factors that come into play when one is thinking about marriage, so results can vary, but I just wanted a generic average so maybe I'd know what to look for approaching the idea of a new relationship with someone. So I dug a little deeper, found a slightly outdated article from 2011 by Pew Research that states the average marrying age for men is 28.7. 


29 years old!?


Even MORE hopelessness settled in... My ex was 32 when we broke up. I'm starting to question was it ME or was it really that he wasn't ready?... Was I just not the one for him? What do you guys think?"


End Anonymous.


So what do you say experts?! Any advice, suggestions, assessments you can contribute to our anonymous vendor? It is clear she is starting to question her worth, or if she was what went wrong with the relationship...Please let us know what you think in the comments.


Are the statistics accurate?
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