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Engaged to someone of a different cultural background? Trying to equally include the various traditions in your wedding? As the bride, there may be a good chance that your parents are stubbornly pressing your side of the families traditions on your wedding plans because they’re paying for the wedding.

 

 

Pardon my french, but ef that! Your parents are paying for it, ok, that doesn’t automatically grant them control over how you and your fiance want to personalize your wedding. No parent should use the fact they are paying for your wedding as an excuse to control every aspect of it. It is meant to be a gift, not a form of leverage. Sure, they can express their opinions and have a say in some things, but ultimately a wedding day should be everything the bride and groom ever imagined.

 

The story has always been that a wedding day is every little girl’s dream and every parent wants the little girl’s dream to come true, right? We get that. But once their daughter grows up, the parents need to realize that their little girl met the other half of that dream in real life, and now her perception has altered to accommodate both dreams to become one.

 

Traditions can be amazing. Some families are more strict about tradition than others. But when it comes to weddings, and cross-cultures, how do we strive to incorporate both? It’s not just about invitations, decorations, music and venues:



  • Communicating to BOTH parents early in the planning process that this is YOUR wedding. Discuss incorporating both families traditions and that you are going to do your best to accommodate both cultures. If they can’t accept your best, the important thing is that you gave it your effort.

  • Schedule a family bonding period where both families can learn a little about one another’s culture or beliefs. Try a dance class that is specific to each culture or a dinner with your families favorite dishes.

  • Arrange for a proper officiant; one that honors whatever cultures, religions and ethnic traditions you may have, to conduct your ceremony. You might even end up having two!

  • Discuss the idea of fusion catering, to blend both cultural cuisines.

  • Include any special rituals or entertainment in the program with brief explanations of their significance and symbolism so that guests can appreciate both sides.



Whatever you decide, make sure it is something both you and your fiance want. Don’t stress about what your parents want. This day is about you and your partner. Putting your efforts in to accommodate both cultures is already something that should be appreciated by both families. It’s a time to rejoice and celebrate the union of two cultures, how wonderful and unique is that?

How would you incorporate your families traditions into your wedding?
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